All posts for the month August, 2013

On being kicked when down by “Murphy’s Law”

Published August 30, 2013 by mamapossum1954

In some ways, today was pretty good. I FINALLY got to see my friend Karlee – AND she had her boyfriend with her (I hadn’t officially met him until today). I also got to see John; he was at the weekend orientation at IUP prior to our freshman year in 2009….great guy! Also, I rode with Nathan to Walmart this morning – he said it was “just in case” (that is, if anything happened, I could steer while he pushed). Got there okay and then I caught the green bus to the Oak Grove. Nathan had given me a few dollars, so I got myself a large cinnamon toast coffee at Java City in the library.

Classes were pretty good today….AND my final textbook was in at the book store!! YAY! I’d had this “gut urge” to visit the co-op store before class, but just brushed it off, only to find out from the professor that the book was in. So I went there after class to get it (today being the final day to use financial aid, prior to getting a disbursement).

This afternoon things started going downhill. First, the blue bus (the ONLY bus that goes down our road) was roughly 45 mins. late. I debated whether or not to get off at walmart and go home with Nathan, then decided against it. When I got home, there was an envelope on the door from Cindy, the apt. manager. I’d turned in a copy of my financial aid so she could work out the recertification. WELL……turns out, with my financial aid for this semester plus Nathan’s wages from walmart (worked out for 12 months) added together and then multiplied by .30, with $119 taken off for utility allowance, our rent has gone from $33 per month to $315 per month….which would kill one of Nathan’s checks. He already pays the old rent PLUS the internet PLUS the electricity PLUS gas PLUS cigs PLUS whatever else isn’t covered with food stamps. So that really put my mood in a nose dive.

Then Nathan comes home, finds out about the rent, and HIS mood takes a nose dive! So I’m sitting here, in a really bad mood, feeling very unfriendly towards no one in particular and also pretty antisocial…..If I was still a drinker, I’d probably have several glasses of whatever alcohol I could find that was cheap!!! Not that it would help, mind you. I learned that the hard way in Melbourne.

Anyway, after thinking about it, and also thinking about the money I owe Marcia and the money I owe Barb, plus whatever I’ll have to fork out for the truck, I made the executive decision to NOT attend commencement in December. As Leanne pointed out to me just now on FB, it costs nothing to attend commencement, except for the cap and gown. But that works out to, oh, roughly $60 or $70. And we need a new printer….desperately! I need one for my classes. I also need a new phone card for my tracfone since I only have 1 minute left on it and we don’t have a landline at home. Oh, and plus I’ll have the car insurance due in December.

So that’s the situation at the present moment. “Murphy’s Law” has decided to kick this family when we’re down….and I AM NOT IMPRESSED!!! Getting really sick of this Murphy (NOT my friend Murphy).


Awesome Day – in many respects

Published August 30, 2013 by mamapossum1954

Got an unexpected email from my dear friend Murphy yesterday morning! So….after Lisa picked up Nathan to drive him to work, I jumped in the shower (it is such a blessing to be able to actually shower without a plastic cup!!! 😀 ) and caught the 9:30 bus (once again, it was late…but not as late as it was on Wednesday). Murphy got on at his/her stop 10 minutes later.

Gosh, the weight Murphy has lost since we last spent time together!!!! Looking so HOT!!! Anyway, we got off at the transit center, walked down 7th Street – I made a quick stop at Sheetz for a pack of cigs, then we went to Giant Eagle Express and talked for over an hour over coffee. Really put me in a good mood….an exceptional mood actually.

I don’t know what it is about Murphy…but when we spend time together, even if we talk about depressing stuff (my problems, his/her problems, the sad state of affairs in society, whatever), I just feel so light hearted and content….like a piece of the puzzle that was missing was suddenly put in the proper spot.

NOTE: From here on out, I am going to refer to Murphy as she. It’s only fair and respectful as far as I’m concerned. Yes, I believe in God. Yes, I’m a Christian. Yes, I’m Catholic. Having said that, my opinions and feelings and political leanings have undergone a major transition over the years, especially during my time at IUP. No, it is not – as my most conservative Christian friend Marcia (whom I love dearly) – because I have been brainwashed by the liberal un-Christian educational system! I just feel that I have absolutely no right to judge anyone else. I will not make judgments against people who are different from myself – either as far as gender goes, or sexual orientation, or race, or religion, or whatever. I may not agree with their lifestyle or religion or whatever, but that does not make me care for them any less. Nor does it give me the right to judge them and shove my beliefs down their throats.

I love Murphy for who she is, for how she makes me feel when we spend time together. I can be myself around her. I don’t give a rat’s a** whether she was born having the wrong gender or doesn’t hold the same values as far as belief in God goes.

Okay, I’m off my soapbox for now. Had to get this out there into the ether because it annoys me to want to post things and have to be careful not to use any gender-specific language. I am who I am, and I will fight for the rights of those I care about – whether or not it causes people I know to judge me on my acceptance of others and for them to find me “lacking in morals, values” or whatever.

Enough said.

“Murphy’s Law” – AGAIN!!!!

Published August 28, 2013 by mamapossum1954

This week started out so great! My son was off Mon. & Tues. so he drove me to school the first day. We got our shower fixed last night (Tues.). I took the bus to school this morning, in a torrential downpour – which did absolutely nothing to elevate my mood!

As if the rotten soggy weather wasn’t enough, we had a major (tho short-ish) thunderstorm last night and the beast woke me up around 2:30 am (I had maybe an hour’s sleep at this point). But then….well, I thought at the time it was a good thing…the printer came back on. So I thought, ‘Wow, I won’t have to buy a new one.’

Then my dear friend Karlee did NOT show up either this morning or during the break, so I don’t know where she is.

The highpoint (lowpoint?) came at 10:24 am this morning. The phone rings. It’s my son. The truck won’t stay started. Apparently it was fine when he was with Ty last night. He goes to the truck to leave for work this morning, turns it on, takes his foot off the gas pedal, and the darn things shuts off. Tried several times. So…..I tell him to call AAA. I also tell him to call work to let them know. He tries to call a friend for a lift to work – you have to remember that he hasn’t missed ANY days up to this point & it’s practically killing him to call off – but can’t get through to them.

So… I’m panicking all day, since I won’t get my fin. aid refund until Sept. 9th or 10th, and he doesn’t get paid until Thursday. We don’t know what’s wrong with the truck. Taking the bus is NOT an option for most of his shifts since there IS NO BUS at those times.

It’s raining all day….then just after lunch time, it starts storming….so now I’m worried about the beast going neurotic again. And not knowing if the son made it to work.

Update: I just threw a curve ball to “Murphy’s Law”…..We called Lisa and my son gave me gas $ so she could take me up to get cigs. AND she’s going to drive him to work tomorrow and pick him up. So, take that!!!


Published August 28, 2013 by mamapossum1954

Well, the first 2 days of classes are over. Basically the easiest of all days since the professors only go over the syllabi. I like the new professor (who, I thought at first was a PhD student but is actually a professor). Her classes should be interesting – tho I could do with less “discussion” and interaction. Dr. Hildebrandt’s Race & Ethnicity class is going to be cool. We have a mixed class – perhaps 50/50 black and white but also some Philipinos (sp?) and Hispanics. At least it should be a hell of alot easier than her social theory class!!!! As for Dr. B’s Social Welfare Policy class… usual I am going to love her class, especially with this content.

Yesterday I bought one book that we need for social problems (Nickel and Dimed, which I’d already read but didn’t have a copy of) and one of the GRE study boooks. They still didn’t have the book for Soc of the Family, but I’ll check this morning.

And, of course, the maintenance guy came yesterday afternoon and fixed the shower and put in new taps….so no more showing with a cup!!!! He said he’d have to come back once the parts come in to do the bathroom sink however. As usual, Cindy had not given him the work order, even though I put a long note in the mail slot early Monday morning (same thing as with the broken mail box….she never gave him the order).

Nathan spent some time last night with his friend Ty but I finally went to bed. He works at 11 today so I’ve got to make his lunch before I catch the bus to campus. Marky woke me up around 2:30 (so I’d only slept like an hour & a half) due to a severe thunderstorm…..Came downstairs – Nathan was home & asleep already. The storm was fierce but didn’t last long; went back to bed until the alarm went off at 6:30….Wishing I could have a few more hours sleep, but….NOT going to be lax this semester like I’ve been in the past. Shooting for a 4.0 this semester….or as close as I can get.

Making a pot of coffee, have to jump in the shower, make his lunch and then get going. There’s a possibility of storms later today, so I’d better make sure my window is closed. Poor baby going to be here all alone….so hope he copes well.

First day over…..

Published August 26, 2013 by mamapossum1954

It felt surreal today. I was so glad to be back on campus. Got most of my textbooks at the bookstore (my son drove me to IUP & dropped me off), then had a coffee at Java City and said hi to Mary. Walked over to Keith early and ran into Dr. H. It feels so “off” somehow – partly because, for the first time in a long time, I don’t have any classes with Dr. H.

The new professor, Dr. Sandhoff, seems really nice. She’s from Maryland, kind of my old stomping ground – tho I think she was at Univ. of MD in Baltimore (?) not College Park. After class, I walked with Dr. H to her office and asked lots of questions about the grad program. After getting her input, she suggested I talk with Dr. Shinberg since she’s kind of head of the Sociology Masters Program to get more relevant info. I’ll wait & talk to her next week.

I’m so antsy, though! Once I decide something, I like to get all my ducks lined up in a row so I know where I’m at. Also talked to Dr. Sandhoff before the 2nd class about theses and grad school and thesis committees, etc. She gave me some good info.

So….Do I want to go to grad school at IUP? Or do I want to try to go somewhere else where they also have assistantships and such, where there might be more professors whose expertise lies in my topic? Really tough decision. I hate being out of my comfort zone, firstly. Also, I don’t have any money to relocate. Also, there are professors here at IUP who know me and what I’m passionate about. I might try to talk to Dr. B tomorrow before or after class to see what she thinks.

Anyway, tomorrow are the first of my other 2 classes. Love the first 2 days since they’re mainly just going over the syllabus and no major work to do. So that’s that for now.


Last Day of Freedom!

Published August 25, 2013 by mamapossum1954

Yes, this is my last free day before classes resume tomorrow. Am I sitting here wishing I had another one or two weeks off (which is what has normally happened over the past 4 years)? If I’m totally honest with myself, I’d have to admit that, yes, a small part of me, a very minute part of me, wouldn’t mind another week or so to catch up on laundry, cleaning, Farmtown, etc. Yet, a large part of me is really looking forward to tomorrow. I NEED this! On a basic level, college is what defines me, what makes me who I am, what makes me content. I LOVE being on campus, going to class, learning new things, absorbing the atmosphere of IUP, going for coffee at Java City, seeing all the people I’ve grown to know and care about over the past 4 years.

What happens after graduation in December is anybody’s guess. Yes, I can sit the state civil service test and hope, pray, that some agency in Indiana wants to interview me and hire me. Yes, I can send out my resume and cover letter to various agencies in Indiana and hope, pray, that any of them want to interview and hire me. Unfortunately, Indiana is a college town and jobs are scarce….Jobs I can actually do, that is. Jobs I’m good at or would be good at. I’m not afraid of hard work or of learning new things. But I also know my capabilities AND my limitations.

On another level, there is the possibility of graduate school. In that area, my options are limited. Yes, there are a lot of grad schools out there that might accept me. On the minus side is location. It costs money to relocate. Money we don’t have at the present time.

But graduate school options are something I can’t think about until I talk with Dr. H – hopefully some time this week. If there is a possibility of my sitting (AND passing) the GRE exams…AND if there’s a possibility of my being accepted (basically I’m looking at grad school at IUP right now)…..AND if there’s a possibility of my getting financial aid….AND if there’s a possibility of a bonus like an assistantship…..well, I’ll consider it. I mean, I’m really good at being a student, and a Bachelor’s degree only gets you so far today. On the other hand, a Master’s degree would get me even further. Of course, ideally it would be nice to get a part time job at one of the agencies AND go to grad school (since most of the classes are in the evening).

Anyway, I can’t make any decisions just yet. Just wait and see…..and enjoy the routine of being back in my element.

Total Waste of Time!

Published August 21, 2013 by mamapossum1954

Was up before 6:30 this morning, after hardly sleeping at all…..My son was up at 7:30. The window guys came just after 8….In the morning, they did one side of the building; after lunch they did the other side (except for one apt. whose tenant wasn’t home) and didn’t bother to do ours. I have no idea when, or if, they’re doing our windows!!! Wasted the entire day…..And classes start back up on Monday as well. No way am I missing class during my final semester. And Nathan certainly can’t miss work. I am thoroughly disgusted!!! And no one bothered to tell anyone anything, so no one knows what’s going on. Great…..just marvelous … not.